Normal is someone you don’t know very well.


We are all vulnerable to the unexplored.

The Talmud

We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it in full.

Marcel Proust

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now.

Rainer Maria Rilke

If you're really listening, if you're awake to the poignant beauty of the world, your heart breaks regularly. In fact, your heart was made to break; its purpose is to burst open again and again so that it can hold ever more wonders.

Andrew Harvey

Now stop the words. In the center of your chest open the window. Let the spirits fly in and out.


What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved, we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.

Helen Keller

When you are going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill

Grief is like manure, if you spread it out it fertilizes, if you leave it in a big pile it smells like crap.

Tom Golden, LCSW

Bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love.

C.S. Lewis

Supressed grief suffocates and rages within, and is forced then, to multiply its strength.


You have to commit yourself to this struggle, and commit yourself to the pain. And I commit myself to my heartbreak wholeheartedly. It's something I will never let go.

Lady Gaga

Death ends a life, not a relationship.

Jack Lemmon

Every wise heart comes to know that life on Earth is painful as well as beautiful.

Jack Kornfield

Now he has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.

Albert Einstein

Some torn places cannot be patched.


Seeking to forget makes exile all the longer; the secret of redemption lies in remembrance.

Richard von Weizsaecker

An event has happened, upon which it is difficult to speak, and impossible to remain silent.

Edmund Burke

I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power...they are messengers of unspeakable love.

Washington Irving

Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers the o’er fraught heart and bids it break.

Shakespeare, Macbeth

The conventional explanation, that God sends us the burden because He knows we are strong enough to handle it, has it all wrong. Fate, not God, sends us the problem. When we try to deal with it, we find out that we are not strong. We are weak; we get tired, we get angry, overwhelmed. We begin to wonder how we will ever make it through all the years. But when we reach the limits of our own strength and courage, something unexpected happens. We find reinforcement coming from a source outside of ourselves. And in the knowledge that we are not alone, that God is on our side, we manage to go on.

Rabbi Harold Kushner

We are all in this alone. Together.

Lily Tomlin

Everybody grieves when someone they love dies. But only people who mourn really heal and move on to live and fully love again….It’s powerful and it’s the only thing that works.

Dr. Alan Wolfelt

Grief makes one hour ten.

Shakespeare, King Richard II

Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting out the lamp because dawn has come.

Rabindranath Tagore

The risk of love is loss and the price of grief; but the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love.

Hilary Stanton Zunin

The Aramaic word for death translates as: not here, present elsewhere.

P.M.H. Atwater Lh. D

He that conceals his grief finds no remedy for it.

Turkish Proverb

In French, you don't really say "I miss you".

You say "tu me manques", which is closer to "you are missing from me".

I love that. "You are missing from me".

You are a part of me, you are essential to my being."


A traveler can only journey through a dark forest half way before he begins to come out the other side.

Chinese Proverb

Who better to softly bind up the wound of one, than he who has suffered the same wound himself?

Thomas Jefferson

When tears come, I breathe deeply and rest. I know I am swimming in a hallowed stream where many have gone before. I am not alone, crazy, or having a nervous breakdown. My heart is at work. My soul is awake.

Mary Margaret Funk

This is whole, that is whole. When a portion of wholeness is removed, what remains continues to be whole.

The Purnamahda, opening peace sloka (verse) of the Ishvara Upanishad

Life is short, the cycle of life is omnipresent, our loving relationships are paramount, and the spirits of the dead are always with us.

Angela at Day of the Dead.com

There's nothing wrong with dying. My main concern is that she's not coming back.

Gene Traylor

You and I will be together until the universe dissolves.


If ever there is a tomorrow when we are not together, there is something you must always remember. Remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. And the most important thing is, even when we are apart, I will always be with you.

The Tao of Winnie the Pooh

What's strange, this pain, I love it. I LOVE it. And, I embrace it. I'm afraid if I let it go, I'm gonna lose the last little piece of him I still have. It's so funny, this thing no one tells you about -- about the relationship that begins with them after they die. If I can... quiet my head down enough, I can feel him.

Maggie Royal, "Return to Zero"

The healing from the pain, is in the pain.


When you find a person who has the same thought as yours, you cry out for joy, and you go and shake him by the hand. Your heart leaps as though you were walking in a street in a foreign land and you heard your own language spoken, or your name in a room full of strangers.

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Motherhood is a state of the mind and the heart, a sacred space that is yours no matter the distance between you and your child. Not even death can take it away.

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore